October, 2010 - Thrive in Life


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I’m Going To Live Until I Die
By Ed Griffin

In the spring of 1996, my doctor, Todd Arnold, sent me for some tests. The normal range for the PSA is .0 to 4.0. Mine was 19.0 Dr. Andreou, an urologist and like Dr. Arnold, a human being, arranged for me to go to the outpatient clinic of Surrey Memorial Hospital for a biopsy of my prostate.

The terror of hospitals began. Only once since my birth had I been in a hospital and that time I was unconscious for twenty-four hours after an automobile accident. As I sat in the special waiting room, my imagination went to work. Strip, and put on this hospital gown. We are going up through your rectum and…. Your chances? Six months at best. Read more

COMMENTS (7) | health, thriving

Incredible Friendship: The Orangutan And The Hound!
By Suryia and Roscoe

Best friends, Surya the orangutan and Roscoe the Blue Tick hound dog, were recently featured on National Geographic.

The orangutan was out for his daily elephant ride when he spotted “a worn-out old hound dog.” They ran right toward each other and hugged like long lost best friends. Read more

COMMENTS (7) | animal companion, relationships

Expert Series: Your Job: How To Stay Personally Relevant … Now And In The Future?
By Steve Kayser

“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn.” – Alvin Toffler

I heard a couple of acquaintances talk about a person they work with that was “older” and no longer contributing to their business. This person apparently couldn’t, or wouldn’t, learn new skills. Or, for that matter, even keep up with the skill-set needed for the job. Age was mentioned, and not favorably. They thought this person should be “put out to pasture.” Perhaps this person was too “old” to be open to new ideas or learn new things.” Read more

COMMENT (0) | learning, thriving, work

I Love Lucy…The Sweetest Dog In The World
By Dorothy Beavington

Christmas, 1945. My mother and I stand in a long line-up on Christmas Eve to pay a bill. I cling to her side, a tired and cranky six year old. I want to go home. I hate this Christmas. Daddy won’t be with us. Daddy built a sailboat with my cousin, Johnny. They called it “The Skylark” and took it for its maiden voyage on Chestermere Lake, just outside of Calgary. It was the Labour Day weekend, Sunday, September 2^nd. A wind came up, the boat turned over.

Daddy wasn’t a strong swimmer. Johnny made it to shore. He looked back, saw his uncle Kit was in trouble, and went back for him. They both drowned, caught in the weeds in the lake. Read more

COMMENTS (4) | animal companion, children, loss

Wisdom Of The Innocent: A Poem
By Bessie Hiet 85 Years Young

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Bessie thriving at 84. Click here to see Bessie’s original 1943-47 love poems, including her drawings, to her husband, Harry Hiet. They are married 64 years..

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Wisdom Of The Innocent

Frail and old and all alone, Read more

COMMENTS (7) | aging, enlightenment, parenting

The Happiness Formula
By Beth Rowles Scott

PINCH ME. Why pinch me? So I can be sure that this happiness I feel is not a dream, that my life has really changed so much since I was a fat little girl in Saskatchewan.

Growing up, losing my fatness and leaving my home province was sometimes fun, sometimes painful, often challenging. There were times when I would experience happiness, but then I would lose it again.

But I’ve had enough sightings of this elusive, mysterious happiness to give me a formula. Perhaps you have found your own way to happiness. But if you have not, do taste the ingredients of the Pinch Me happiness brew. May they serve you well!

A FORMULA FOR HAPPINESS

To be happy you need these three things: someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to. Read more

COMMENT (1) | aging, children, service, thriving

I’m Separate/Divorced: Now What?
By Bev Jaundrew

Recently separated? Divorced? Unsure what to do?

Here’s a To Do list. Think of it as a “bucket list” with a twist. I’ve already put each into action and will continue to implement the items on the list. I’m not going to check them off one by one until I’m dead. I’ve waited long enough already.

September 3, 2010, 23 years to the day I was married, I was granted a divorce. Read more

COMMENTS (5) | divorce, separated

“I’m A Bit Of Alright”
By Diane Schachter

Joan Campbell’s granddaughter loves to hang out with her 91 year old grandmother. Even when she’s about to go to a Lady Gaga concert, all dolled up in heavy eye makeup, see-through stockings and platform shoes, her grandmother smiles. The kids of today, Joan says, know how to have fun and laugh. And Joan believes that life should be all about joy and laughter.

I learned, however, that Joan’s life at times has been anything but a laughing matter. Read more

COMMENTS (14) | aging, thriving

Expert Series: How To Ask For And Receive Guidance: IFSF Formula
By Shiri Joshua

IFSF: *Intention *Focus *Surrender *Faith
are the ingredients necessary for this formula to truly work in your life!

On a peaceful Saturday in April, I sat in the sun by the river, watching the glittering rays bless the cleansing flow of water. I closed my eyes for a moment and took in the warmth and serenity of the space around me. I watched an Eagle sitting patiently on a tree top, gracefully trusting that the next meal would be provided. Not fretting, obsessing, or flying about frantically, Eagle showed me the importance of true trust and patience. Read more

COMMENT (1) | learning, spiritual


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