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Expert Series: Ten Steps To Personal Transformation
By Amara Rose

The quest to discover and live our truth is the Hero’s Journey, a sacred pilgrimage home to ourselves. It’s the high road — and a rigorous one. We may try to camouflage our fear of the unknown with bravado, workaholism, or apathy. There’s another way: following the path of the heart. How do we find it? With a transformational road map. I invite you to join me on a mission to remember and reclaim your life purpose.

Step One: Give Yourself Permission to be Passionate 

Our resistance is the Refusal of the Call. Change whispers in our ear, and we attempt a high-tech tune-out: call waiting, call forwarding, on hold, voicemail…

We fight change because acceding to it feels like stepping off a cliff into an abyss. Out of touch with our vital, intuitive nature, we panic and crawl safely back into the shopping center mentality. We resign ourselves to buying the leopard print pants because we’re afraid to be the leopard.

How do we answer this call to reclaim our connection to what’s true for us? We start by giving ourselves permission to be passionate, to dream beyond our self-imposed boundaries.

As we grant ourselves this grace, the still, small voice inside us grows stronger. We advance from being good soldiers, who take orders, to spiritual warriors, who take responsibility. Responsibility is the ability to respond, to say yes, count me in! 

Step Two: Say The First Farewell 

One “symptom” of transition is that the familiar starts to seem strange. You may feel a need to distance yourself from the “ordinary world” of others. This leave-taking needn’t be physical; it can occur symbolically. In the year before I left my corporate post to start my marketing communications business, I made a conscious decision to mentally “let my company go.” I still completed the work to my usual high standards, and freed up enormous emotional energy I’d been pouring into job frustration, which I productively channeled into the launch of my business.

Step Three: Enter The Void 

Pry those mental fingers loose! Your willingness to be in free-fall, to release one trapeze bar before the next has swung into view, is an essential step in restory-ing your life: looking again at the story you’ve created about how the world is, and seeing how this filter distorts your view of beauty — your own beauty.

The poet Rilke encourages us to “live awhile in the question.” You’re entering a corridor between the worlds; it’s okay to not know what happens next. As you allow yourself to feel safe inside the space between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming, the feeling of falling into an abyss will subside.

Step Four: Enlarge The Lens 

Marcel Proust said, “The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” Look with the eyes of wonder, like a child. When children encounter the unfamiliar, they s-l-o-w w-a-y d-o-w-n, allowing their senses to absorb new information. You can do this with personal transformation. Breathe deeply into the mystery. Ask yourself, how can I expand this experience?

Keep a journal. If you’re more kinesthetic than visual, dance your change process. What does it feel like as flowing movement? You might also paint or sculpt your journey, or make up songs describing your experiences. 

Step Five: Bless The Fear 

Fools rush in; the rest of us tremble. Fear is normal. It’s even valuable, because it gives us something to push up against, which helps develop our spiritual muscles. This is positive resistance. Weight training for the mind. Fear itself is only a smoke screen: false evidence appearing real. You can defuse it with “affirmative action.” Every night before bed, I used to look at my office (set up in a corner of my living room) and give it the thumbs-up sign. I did this for years. A simple, powerful, YES for success!

Step Six: Do The Work! 

In the Hero’s Journey, this is the Initiation. Goethe said, “Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it/Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now!” Once you commit to change, a confluence of forces moves to assist you.

I draw inspiration from improvisational comedy. The core concepts of improv are: (1) Begin with what is. (2) Don’t manipulate the action; discover it. (3) Never stop the action by saying “but” or “no”; instead say “yes, and” and add on to what’s come before. In this way we build a story, a calling, a life.

When I wanted to start writing for health magazines, I began by authoring a piece about a fashion designer for a business magazine (Begin with what is.) After the article was published, I asked the editor, “Do you have other needs I could fill?” (Discover the action.) I learned they were planning to drop a certain column for lack of writers with good story ideas. The topic? Personal health. I became their primary contributor, and used these articles as a springboard to generate assignments in health magazines. (Yes, and…)

When you feel air currents wafting past your face, you’re in the solution. The poet David Whyte describes this forward momentum eloquently: “The rest of creation is waiting, breathless, for you to take your place.”

Step Seven: Take The Tests 

There’s no hitching a ride to self-discovery (or a new career or relationship) on someone else’s coattails! To own your power, you must be willing to scrape your psyche on the rocky road inland. It’s the only way to discover and claim your unique gift. You’ll encounter tests along the way, which can be innocuous or even pleasant, depending on our degree of resistance.

I saw a woman wearing a T-shirt that brings this principle home: “If you want to live life on your own terms/You gotta be willing to crash and burn.” Now that’s answering the call!

Step Eight: Humor Yourself 

We can lighten up our enlightenment. When I was deep into my transformational journey, a healer told me, “One day you will hear laughter and realize it’s your own voice.” It seemed a strange prophecy. Yet as I peeled away layers of false beliefs and crusty attitudes that kept me enslaved, I felt laughter spontaneously bubble up from some subterranean source, and I understood. This is who we are. Let yourself feel the joy, the light, the love inside your being.

To encourage dormant humor, play with a puppy, a kitten — or a child. Make up nonsense words to popular songs and walk around singing them — in public. Enroll in an improv comedy class.

Step Nine: Be Grateful 

Gratitude and forgiveness are brothers. Be grateful for all the challenging people in your life — bosses, co-workers, children, friends — because they’re your greatest teachers. These relationships are difficult precisely because of your resistance to the teaching, which might be about compassion, self-worth, generosity, or unconditional love. The Mayans have an expression, In Lakéch, which means, “I am another yourself.” We’re always looking in the mirror. If we don’t like what we see, we can blame the mirror, or look within. The latter is the path of personal mastery, and peace.

Expressing our gratitude can also bring healing to a relationship. Remember that intention initiates transformation. Everything we manifest in the outer world begins first as a thought in our minds. Appreciating another opens new avenues for our own abundance to flow in.

Step Ten: Be The Change 

Heroes know that mastering change requires daily practice. I really enjoy the signs in public gardens that say, “Stay on the path.” The key to integrating change in our lives is, have big dreams, take baby steps. Gandhi said, “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” Imagine if Gandhi had remained a lawyer, the gifts the world would not have.

Living authentically means choosing to live from responsibility, courage, creativity and faith, all of which unleash tremendous joy and freedom. It’s a lifelong process of self-actualization. And it’s our reason for being here.

© 2012 Amara Rose. All rights reserved.

Amara Rose Bio:

Amara Rose is a metaphysical “midwife” for our global rebirth. She offers personal and business coaching, e-courses, CDs, and talks on a wide range of personal growth topics. You can subscribe to her monthly e-newsletter, What Shines, through http://www.liveyourlight.com. Amara may be reached at amara@liveyourlight.com or 800-862-0157 in the USA.

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4 Responses to “Expert Series: Ten Steps To Personal Transformation”

  1. Zoey Surrey BC
    May 2nd, 2012 @ 5:50 pm

    This is an excellent article Amara. You make clear concepts that are sometimes hard to understand. Thank you.

  2. Amara Rose
    May 2nd, 2012 @ 8:12 pm

    You’re so welcome, Zoey! My purpose and service is to translate what I understand into language that speaks to everyone 🙂

  3. Flo
    May 6th, 2012 @ 7:34 am

    Love the article. Great practical advice for following our dreams.

  4. Amara Rose
    May 6th, 2012 @ 12:52 pm

    Thank you, Flo! I hope you’re following yours ~ this is the moment for everyone to step up to their greatness!

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