Expert Series: Boston Terrier Petey Copes With The Loss Of Chris
By Laura Stinchfield - Pet Psychic
 On the early morning of October 19th, my friend Chris Staley passed away of cancer. He was 45. A few weeks prior to his death, Chris asked me to be his dog’s guardian. Petey is a remarkable one-year-old Boston Terrier. One minute he will be running around squeaking a toy and using my legs as a jump off point. And the next minute he will be curled up in my lap, looking up at me wide-eyed saying things like, “My dad had more pain inside of him than he voiced. Why do bodies die? It is strange having him kiss, hug me and sit with me without his body.”
Within hours of sending an email to a select group of people that Petey was looking for a home, I received close to thirty calls. Every person either presently lives with a Boston Terrier, has a cancer survivor in the family, or both. Petey went on trial with a family who has two Bostons in the family; they play a canine sport called fly ball, allow the dogs on the bed, feed good food, go to extreme measures when there is a medical issue, have a cancer survivor in the family, and use human training techniques. They even have a Boston Terrier flag at the entrance of their house. They love Petey! I couldn’t find a better home. But when I went back to check on Petey, he begged me to take him away. He said one of the dogs didn’t like him, he didn’t sleep on the bed, and he wondered why grandma (Chris’ mom) couldn’t keep him. Trance, one of the dogs in the family, licked me and begged, “Since Petey came here I feel normal. He is my best friend. Please make him stay.” Despite the great home and Trance’s pleading, I took Petey away because that is what HE wanted. In the car, Petey said he wanted “a gay hairdresser like dad.” When I told him I wasn’t sure if I could find exactly that, he replied, “My dad thought you had great hair.”
When we got back home, I didn’t feel right. Stormy, my Aussie, tried to help. “Petey, fly ball is really cool. You should learn that game.” Petey replied, “I want a gay hairdresser.” Alright, I thought, I can find him that. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that Petey just wanted Chris back. Not even the best gay hairdresser would be good enough. So we talked and talked and we jointly decided to bring Petey back to the family that loves him. Petey would start a new life different than the one he had with Chris. On the car ride there, Petey asked, “Do I have to forget about my old life now?” I told him never to forget, but to concentrate on playing and being happy. He said, “What is my job if no one is suffering?” I told him to be a good friend to his new people and that Trance needs him. When we got to his new home, Petey ran around playing like he lived there all along.
Now a day and two nights later, I ask him how is he doing? Petey says, “I like it here. It is so different. I have to get used to being able to play whenever I want and not having to check on Chris to see if he needs me. Instead, I go in and ask Trance if he is feeling ok ‘cause his body hurts but it is a different pain than dad’s. Sometimes, I ask Penny (the other dog) if she can teach me something or tell me about fly ball. She still doesn’t love me, but I think she will. I slept on the bed but it didn’t smell like dad so I got off. I miss dad more than anything but I am learning to feel comfortable here. I am still very sad. They are giving me extra love and I am learning that they care about me too. I think the love I had for dad will grow for them with time. Thank you Laura for looking out for me. Please don’t forget me. I want to see you because dad told me you would always be a part of my life. I don’t ever want to forget that life. I hate not being able to smell him anymore. Whenever I get sad, I remember what you said and I remember my dad’s smile and I play and pretend it is him throwing the toy for me. I see him in spirit. He is happy I am safe. He approves of this home. I am going to be ok.”
Laura Stinchfield Bio:
Laura Stinchfield is an internationally acclaimed pet psychic. She is known and respected by her colleagues and clientele for her amazingly accurate and life changing telepathic animal communications as well as her handling skills and knowledge of animal behavior. Laura’s clientele ranges from other animal trainers (domestic and exotic), veterinarians, rescue groups, celebrities, to private consultations with adults and children. Laura is an avid writer and columnist. She is the creator of the popular blog www.ThePetPsychic.com/blog Laura dedicates her life to sharing the vastness of animal consciousness. She believes that if we learn to communicate with animals more clearly, their confusion and behavior problems begin to drift away and we in return become more peaceful, caring people. Laura’s website is http://www.thePetPsychic.com
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January 14th, 2011 @ 9:28 pm
Oh, this story squeezed my heart! I hurt for Petey (and for Trance) but it’s great that they have each other now. I have told my rescued BT, Daisy (and I’ve asked a psychic to help me tell her) that she can count on being safe and adored wherever I take her, but she’s usually very afraid when away from home. Thank you for encouraging me to keep trying. She was a breeder’s dog and really didn’t know much of the world beyond her own cage for much of her life before she came to me. I completely understand why the big wide world is so scary. I’m inspired by this article and will keep up my efforts. BTs are such adorable dogs.. it’s no wonder we want to move mountains for them.
Thanks again.